Valentine’s Day, a Snow Day, and Maybe Baby Classes

Valentine’s Day this year passed easily and perfectly.  We lay around all day blissfully frying our minds together and marathoning Wentworth on Netflix.  We had mind-blowing sex, and then when we finally decide to shower and put on clothes (I’m pretty sure the sun was setting at this point) it started snowing like crazy! We ventured out for our Valentine’s Day date anyway, and the snow was thick, beautiful, and lovely.  The restaurant was covered in snow, dinner was delicious, and we ordered a bottle of wine to celebrate our last Valentine’s Day as an unmarried couple.

We went to the movies and saw Project Almanac.  We were one of only three couples in the entire theater while I’m sure the theaters for Fifty Shades of Grey were packed and crowded.  It felt perfect and very “us” to be seeing the geeky science movie about time travel.

It snowed more Monday night and we both stayed home from work yesterday.  We finished Wentworth on Netflix and spent the day holding each other.  Things between us are on fire lately.  Three and a half years in, and we still can’t get enough of each other.

The wedding planning is not so stressful right now, and more fun.  After four straight weeks of wedding dress shopping I’ve finally made my decision.  I took a break from it all and got a ninety minute massage today.  It was needed, and relaxing, and I feel whole and content.

It’s hard sometimes to restrict our spending habits and to be responsible and save money.  But when I look at my bank account that frustration easily vanishes.  The more we save the more exciting the next few years have the potential to be.

Our gay friend Kris forwarded Alana an email about a non-profit company in D.C. called Rainbow Families D.C.   They have an eight week class program called Maybe Baby, which provides same-sex parents-to-be with information and support about the options of building a family.  Alana and I were so happy to hear about classes like this existing in our area.  Alana thinks that we should look into taking these classes sometime, and I could’t agree more.  We emailed the program coordinator together earlier this week.  I’m still waiting to hear back, but just knowing that this program exists is exciting!

My yoga practice is on fire and I’m looking to build my massage career now that the wedding is coming up and things are falling into place.  I’m playing around with the idea of doing another yoga teacher training, or two, over the next few years, as well as building my own private practice for massage and individual yoga lessons!

To say that things are going well is an understatement.  Things are really falling into place and I couldn’t be more grateful.  Our road together hasn’t always been so smooth and there’s definitely been bumps along the way, but the hills are starting to subside as we find a smoother plain and rhythm together.

I have plans with my best friend and Goddaughter this weekend and we have plans with Alana’s family the following weekend.  My life is full of yoga, massage, friends, family, and love.  I’m going to hold onto all of this, and be grateful for it, and try to spread the light to others because I know that I’m very fortunate.  And I know that things can be easily lost when not fully appreciated or valued.

I Think I’ve Found My Wedding Dress!

My big wedding dress appointment was today and it went exceptionally well.  I’m fairly certain we’ve found the dress, and it’s gorgeous, beautiful, and absolutely perfect.  My heart has been pounding all day ever since we left the shop!

I feel almost intoxicated with it.  My bridesmaid and my Mom love it also, they think that it’s perfect.  A week from today, my bridesmaid Sara and I have an appointment at David’s Bridal.  I’m going to try on as many wedding dresses as I can.  Dresses that look like this perfect one, but also others that don’t.  I want to compare and contrast.  I need to be absolutely sure!

After all, I’ve found this dress very early on in my dress shopping.  But I’m almost certain that this is the one.  I don’t think any other dress can come close to touching this one.

…But I guess next week will tell! Wishing myself happy hunting.

twinsA happy picture of my bridesmaid Sara and I coincidentally dressed as twins before we went dress shopping today.

Dim Sum Dinner Dates, iPhone Upgrades, Wedding Planning, and Snow Day Let-Downs.

I’ve been in a funk for the last week or so.  Alana and I had a bad fight last week, hurtful words were said and trust was breeched.  We’ve talked things out and have found solutions together, but I’m still processing and reeling from it all.

I kinda kept to myself last week, I didn’t tweet much or reply to texts.  We’ve had outstanding dinner plans with our married gay friends Nick and Kris that I badly wanted to cancel because I just wasn’t feeling up to going out.  But then I figured that laughter, drinks, and good company would be a good change of scenery, so I threw on clothes and trudged on out.

I’m so glad that we went out, everyone had a blast.  We went to our favorite dim sum restaurant in D.C., and then back to their apartment afterwards.  We played with the litter of puppies that their boxer recently gave birth to, we drank wine and beer, and played cards against humanity.  I was tipsy, and laughing, and the awful foggy week started fading away.

I’ve been fighting with Verizon all month because I was having issues “edging up” to a free iPhone six plus on my plan, but after three hours in their store Saturday I finally left with one! It’s perfect, and shiny, and it’s making me happy.  That, plus the fun time Saturday night has me in better spirits.

IMG_4074 Another cool things that happened this weekend was that we completed two major wedding planning steps!  We booked a photographer, which is a huge step, and also very uplifting after the let down with the first photographer we asked.  We also found an officiant to marry us, and it’s none other than our amazing gay friend Kris!

He offered from the backseat of Alana’s car on the way home from dinner, and we were thrilled right away.  We love him, and his husband.  He has good energy, a clear voice, and he’s an intelligent and thoughtful soul.  This wedding is really coming together, and much more smoothly than we anticipated.

I talked with and texted a possible DJ today as well.  We will be meeting with him the next time he flys into the area!

I’m definitely feeling better after dinner, the new phone, and the wedding planning.  However, our entire area was collectively hoping for a “snow day” today that did not come! It’s the third or fourth time this year I got hopeful for a snow day, and then had to end up cleaning off my car and driving into work on wet, gloomy, slippery roads.

The snow is really coming down right now, but I don’t want to get hopeful again.  This month has been a crazy knot of emotions.  I’ve felt simultaneously stressed, disappointed, and anxious about the wedding planning, but also delighted, excited, and pleased with it as well.  I’ve spent so much time with friends and family, but maybe not enough on my own.

I knew this year was going to be intense, but man am I on a ride! All I can do though is hold on tight, and try and enjoy the scenery.

I hope this last week of January passes a little less mood-swingy, I’m starting to get whiplash from all the highs and lows.

These First Fourteen Days

We are only fourteen days into 2015, and I feel like so much has happened.  I feel like I’ve lived thirty days, not just fourteen.  This year has been filled with family, friends, and wedding plans in high abundance, and the last few weeks of this month in my calendar are filled with exactly the same.

My Goddaughter’s first birthday party was last weekend and that was a blast.  Alana and I were the only two non family members invited, so it felt like an honor to be there.  It was small and intimate and full of food, wine, and my best friend’s family! Her parents, and their house are like a second family and a second house to me.  Our families have known each other since her and I were seven years old, and I always enjoy spending time with them and my Goddaughter.

We went out to dinner with my extended family the first weekend of this month, and then we went out last Saturday with my third bridesmaid and her new boyfriend.  Both nights involved drinking, love, laughter, and lots of wedding talk! So much has been planned this month, and is continuing to be planned.

We are having dinner with my extended family again this weekend, some friends the next weekend, and then Alana’s extended family the weekend after that.

This is five straight weekends of dinner and time spent with both our families, our friends, and my Goddaughter/2nd family.  My heart just feels about to burst at so much interaction.  We have such an abundance of people, love, and support all around us, and that on top of all the wedding planning has me filled with emotion to the brink.

For the first time since we booked the wedding venue five months ago my parents gave us an amount of money that they will be giving us to help with the cost of the wedding.  It’s more than we were hoping for, and it’s going to help a lot.  They’ve eased the financial stress we’ve been associating with this year.

One huge downside has been that Alana asked a friend of fourteen years, a girl who she’s been very close with, to be the photographer at our wedding.  This girl kindly said no, and that while she loves Alana her beliefs are stopping her from being our photographer.

Alana and I aren’t angry in any way, and we understand.  Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs.  It has been a bit of a disappointment for Alana though, and it’s set us back in our plans as well as our budget a bit.  We are on the hunt for a new photographer and that’s stressing me out a bit.  My Mom keeps adding family members to our guest list, and the cost of that is stressing me out a bit as well.

Things are definitely good, just a little intense.  But, we are really getting into the bulk of the wedding planning now, so I wasn’t expecting any less.

I just need to keep reminding myself to be thankful for the abundance of people and love in my life, as well as for the fact that I actually get to have this wedding! These are all luxuries, and things to be grateful for, and all my stress is something my generation refers to as “first world problems.”

Sigh.  Deep breath.  It’ll all be okay.

I wonder if the rest of this year will continue to be as intense as these first fourteen days.