Category: My lesbian love life

My First Dining Room Table Set and The Worst Jetlag Ever

My First Dining Room Table Set and The Worst Jetlag Ever

Tonight my wife and I bought a seven piece dining room set, and a larger t.v. than the one we own.  We also bought two bar stools for the breakfast bar in our kitchen.  We took home, for free, an area rug last night that was collecting dust and rolled up in a corner of my parents’ basement.

Now that the wedding has passed and we’re home from Greece I am dying to make this house into a home.  This house that we moved into six weeks before the wedding and barely had time to settle into before leaving for a few weeks.

I want to fill the empty spaces-the empty dining room area, the empty space under the bar.  My eyes constantly scan all the empty wall space.  There’s so much empty wall space, on all three levels of this house.

I think about which wedding, or honeymoon, or engagement pictures will look good in which rooms.  I worry over the costs of framing all the pictures.  I think about what new artwork and bathroom decor I’d like to buy.

I’m ready, the honeymoon over, and my brain wanting to move onto the next big thing.

It always amazes me, how quickly I move onto one thing from the next.  It really does.

One thing I have to say, being only home from Greece for three nights: jet lag sucks.  It sucks so much.  I’m not sure if I’ve ever been so exhausted.

And I, of course, am returning to work in the morning.  Oh joy.

My Honeymoon In Santorini, Greece

My Honeymoon In Santorini, Greece

A few days after our wedding my wife and I left for our honeymoon destination of Santorini, Greece.  Despite arriving there exhausted, from traveling over twenty-four hours to get there, it was an amazing honeymoon.  We had a blast, we learned, we grew, we both read two entire books during the travel.  We drank so much wine, so much wine, everyday,  and we ate authentic food from another culture, and loved it.  We went scuba-diving on a black sand beach, we swam in the Aegean Sea, and we went on two separate wine tours!  I did yoga on a black sand beach.  We met people from all over the world, talked with them, heard their stories.

  1. This first batch of pictures is the pool at our resort, and the beautiful walk to Kamari Beach from our resort.  It’s Kamari Beach, our very first black sand beach, and the beautiful Aegean Sea which was both cool and refreshing to swim in.

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IMG_7896 IMG_7897 IMG_7898 IMG_7900 IMG_7912  We went on a beautiful boating excursion that took us to a sulphur hot springs, which we both left the boat and swam to.  It took us along the red and white beach, they drove us past the volcano.  They served us a delicious meal on the boat.  They never let our wine glasses empty.  We watched the sunset melt into the Aegean Sea, before we headed back.

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I will never forget this honeymoon.  I will never get over the feeling of traveling, and everything that it does for me.

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My Fairytale-like Lesbian Wedding

My Fairytale-like Lesbian Wedding

Our wedding night was fun, exciting, a whirlwind, beautiful, and couldn’t have been any more perfect.  But something even more magical is that the entire day was a blast, and so special to me, from start to finish.

Getting ready all day long in the hotel room, with my three bridesmaids, my three best friends, and my Mother was a blast.  My matron-of-honor played music, the hair and makeup artist flew from one of us girls to the other, excited talk filling the room the entire time.

Being put into my wedding dress by my Mother, and my photographer, and her assistants was a whirlwind.  The feeling of being fastened, of them helping me decide how long to wear my wedding necklace, and how many bangles to wear on my arm was Earth changing.  This was it.  In just a few hours I was going to marry the woman I had happily spent the past four years with.  I was going to marry her, my partner.  The feeling of knowing this in my gut was wonderfully indescribable.

Much of this year has been spent with me anxiously worrying about how nervous I was going to be the entire wedding.  I knew for certain that I’d be a mess in that wedding chapel, crying, and emotional.  I worried about so much attention on me.  I worried I’d feel shy at the reception, about dancing, about everything.

And this is not how the ceremony, or the wedding at all, went for me.  I was cool as a cucumber, confident, happy, excited, calm, and I had the time of my life.  It was the best night of my life.  That night, that night singularly, over the past twenty-eight years.

I’ll stop with the wedding night rambling, and get to the pictures.  These are not the official pictures from the photographer-we have not received those yet.  Only one, and that’s the featured image you see above.  I didn’t have my phone on me all night, I was too caught up in my new wife, and close family and friends.  These pictures were taken by those said family and friends.  When we do get the official wedding pictures, I will make another post.


Mehndi Ceremony

Mehndi Ceremony

The Saturday before our wedding my Mom’s only brother and his wife threw a Mehndi Ceremony for my wife and I.

They invited my then wife-to-be’s immediately family, and her three bridesmaids. My bridesmaids and our extended family members were also invited.  All ten females of our bridal party were there.

First, was the henna.  Both my wife and I, all our bridesmaids, our Mothers, my sister-in-laws,and our nieces had henna done.  My aunts and first cousins did as well.  They served homemade Indian food.  Everything was delicious, and fun.  There was so much love and light in their house this afternoon.  It was such an incredible feeling to experience our families coming together like this, and for such an important and sacred tradition.

After the mehndi, they did a bangle ceremony, in which our bridesmaids and Mom’s slid bangles on our arms, and we slid some on theirs.   I will never forget this day, and the incredible feeling of being so loved, and held.

Changes, More Flavors, and More Colors

Changes, More Flavors, and More Colors

It’s been over a month since we moved into this townhouse.  Ten days from now, my partner and I will be saying “I do”.  It’s been a crazy time and a dynamic September with so many changes, more flavors, and more colors to life.

My relationships with everyone is changing.  Everyone.  Even myself.  When my Mother and I go out to lunch, I offer to pay.  Every time.  And she let’s me.  Me feeling like I should pay, and that I want to, is a change.  Her continuing to let me pay, time after time, is an even bigger change.  My relationship with my Mother is complete 180 degree turn from where it was even a year ago.  It’s less mother/daughter, and more like two women who take care of and support one another.

My relationship with my partner has changed, and these changes I can only try and find the words to explain.  But, I guess I’m seeing her more as my spouse, as my own family member, and less like the girl I was once lucky to meet.  I’ve never had my own family before. “My” family?? What a change!  When I use to think of “my family”, I thought of my Mother and my Father.  I didnt’ think about my two older brothers, because they’ve both been married and have had their own families for quite some time now.

My relationships with my bridesmaids, with my friends, and coworkers are all different.  Things are just different.  Everything seems important lately, and so many things have been obvious.  Which people in my life are really good friends, which are acquaintances, which I can live without.  Who is behind me, who supports me, who is happy for me, and who just drains me.  Who really wants to see me succeed, and who is maybe also hoping for a day when I start to fall.

    I’ve started shopping in the misses department in department stores.  The junior sections have materials and styles that are just too young, too shiny, too not me.  I’m starting to shed my short shorts, my shorter dresses, and my clingier tanks.  Hugging and showing off my body just isn’t where I am anymore.  Instead, I find myself looking to cover my body up “appropriately, look sophisticated, and look like someone who I would want to meet.

I’ve always been really self-involved, and even that’s changed quite a bit.  It’s no longer just me, my wants, and my needs.  There exists this lovely woman who will shortly be my wife,  and whom I am inspired to take care of even more than I take care of myself.

My body is changing, and no, it’s not like that going through puberty change.  It’s more of a getting older and things starting to slow down more kind of change.  Things that were always problems for other adults around me are starting to be problems for my own body.  I’ve started talking to my older friends and older family members, seeking advice, trying new vitamins and medications.

Asking my older friends and family members for advice on life insurance and investments is also a change.  I’ve been driving more slowly, being kinder to timid cars around me.  I’ve been kinder to myself.  I’ve been judging myself and everyone around me much less.

There is definitely one huge, solid change, and I guess if I had to find words for it, it’s just that I don’t care about stupid things anymore.  Who cares if I’m over twenty-four hours behind on my Facebook timeline? I’ll catch up.  Who cares if more of my heterosexual married friends are continuing to become parents, and I still don’t feel ready yet? I’ll get there when I’m ready.  Who cares if the stranger I just walked past gave me a dirty look? I don’t know them, and their judgement of me says everything about them and nothing about myself.

Man, how I wish I could have stopped caring about things like this years and years ago!

…But it wasn’t my journey to.  It’s my journey to realize now that I don’t need to care.  I needed to do the work of saving money for this wedding we’re having, and for this townhouse we’re now living in.  I needed to face my insecurities and to be honest with myself about all my dislikes and annoyances with and about myself.

I needed to feel insecure and shaky so that I could find security in my own identify, and with the things I’m able to provide myself.  These changes have not been the easiest, but they were all needed, and now I’m happy this change has arrived.

2015, my wedding year, has definitely been the biggest year of my life so far.  But I have a feeling 2016 will also bring many changes, and I’m now feeling more solid in myself, and looking forward to them.

Our Double Lesbian Bachelorette Party

Our Double Lesbian Bachelorette Party

Our six bridesmaids threw my partner and I a joint bachelorette party this past Friday night, and it was AMAZING!!  They got all of us a huge hotel room for the night, and also a limo! One of my partner’s bridesmaids made a sh*t ton of jello shots, which we all took in the hotel room, one after the other, as we were getting ready.  I had about five or six myself, which is a lot for me.  I’m a light and occasional drinker.

We started the night at a lesbian bar where my wife-to-be and I were given free “bridal shots” from the bartender.  We all ordered drinks and hung out until we ended up at my/our favorite drag bar in D.C. where more of our friends met up with us.

12038529_10153595683861226_6815469760684725152_n  This was so much fun! Many drag queens from RuPaul’s Drag Race were there, including one of my favorite queens Tatianna .  A bunch of us met her out on the rooftop later where we talked with her for a bit, and even got a picture! One of my bridesmaids is a huge RuPaul who just recently moved back home from Georgia, and she was starstruck!

12039456_769611446068_4040358759558730704_n  We left the drag bar  after 1:00 am, after the show was over and we had all spent about an hour continuing to drink, dance, celebrate, and act crazy.  We went to Ben’s Chili Bowl which is a stable restaurant in the D.C. area, and then arrived back to the hotel room probably around 3:00 AM!

….Where we stayed up talking, laughing, and giggling even earlier into the morning.  Time, level of drunkenness, and all sense of responsibility were completely lost all night, and it was fantastic.  My partner and I were so blown away by how all out our bridesmaids went, and we were more than grateful to be thrown such an amazing bachelorette party.

We all somehow made it out of the hotel room the next morning barely hungover and went to Ihop for a follow up breakfast, which was also a blast.  The entire rest of the weekend was spent in high spirits from such a fun night.  It was probably the most drunk I had even been over the course of our four year relationship.  The night was perfect.

  Ten days until the wedding!

Summer 2015 Engagement Shoot

Summer 2015 Engagement Shoot

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My partner and I are both very pleased with how this shoot came out.  The pictures were loved by our family and friends via Facebook and Instagram, and I can’t wait to one day print some of these and frame them for the walls of the townhouse we just moved into.

Ten days.  Our wedding is in ten days.  We’ve been engaged for over two years, and this is our second engagement shoot.  We are more than ready!